Sorry in advance if this is long winded. I'm really concerned about something that my daughter said today and I need some help/advice.
Today was my daughters first day at school (only half days until October). She was very happy when I picked her up and she said she'd had a good time. Her best friend from nursery was starting school too and she was pleased to see her as they haven't seen each other since nursery finished in July.
Over lunch she was talking about school and she mentioned something called "Alfie", she said they (my daughter and her best friend) had been laughing about it while they were putting on their coats to come home. She said it was very rude and Alfie had put his willy in his mouth. I couldn't believe what I was hearing but since it seemed to be related to school I asked her if she had seen this at school. She said it was on the Nick Jr website and she and her friend had watched it at our house. They have watched Nick Jr on the television and my daughter has played on the website but they have never played on the website together. When I said this my daughter told me they had watched it at her friends house. She said it was rude but "the funny bit was when he put his willy in his mouth". She also told me he had wee'd in his mouth. I asked her if she could show me on the website but she said "no, it's 18 plus and it's only for young children" and she can't let me watch it because "the police will come". Because she told me that it was for young children I asked her if it was a boy or a man and she said it was a man. I asked her if anybody else had watched it with them and she said her friend's mum and gran had watched it and they thought it was funny! I asked her again a bit later if this was something she had seen or something her friend had told her about and she said her friend had told her about it but she was lying. I got the impression that she said this just to shut me up so I didn't ask any more questions. I know I shouldn't have kept asking questions but I was so shocked and couldn't believe what I was hearing. I want to believe that this is something innocent that she's got confused about but there is nothing innocent about what she has described. I know they did not see anything like this at my house because when her friend has visited I have always been the only adult with them, apart from once when the girl's mum visited with her.
Has anyone else had any experience of anything like this and if so what did you do? What should I do? Should I speak to the girls mum about it? She's always seemed perfectly nice and I just don't know what to think or do. I'm really worried about what has actually happened, my daughter has only been to her friends house twice because the second time she visited (around April) she said she didn't want to go there again because she was scared of being scratched by her friends cat.
Both the girls have older brothers and are probably no strangers to willy talk but obviously this isn't something I would expect either of them to have seen or heard. My daughter was not distressed in any way when she told me about it because to her it was funny but why hasn't she said anything until now? I don't want her to play at her friends house again if there is even the slightest chance that this has happened there. Also the fact that my daughter initially said that they had watched this at our house is strange because I know she did not so does this mean that it didn't happen at her friend's house either and if that's the case what did happen and where has this all come from?
I know that no one can answer these questions for me but has anyone been through anything similar and if so what did you do?
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Worried by something DD said today about watching something "rude".
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mum2lovely2 · 11/09/2008 17:23
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