Met the mum of DS#1's best friend from school on Friday. They were inseperable in school but since end of term they haven't seen each other. DS lost his phone with friends number on it so can't call him. Can't remember the house number so can't go there. But friend used to come round on his bike quite often and call DS. Mum tells me this is because the lad is being threatened by an older boy - about 15 and bigger - and he's afraid to go anywhere in town without him mum .
DS#1 was furious about this. Absolutely incandescent with rage! His instant response was that he'd beat up this older kid if he ever went near his friend again. Went on and on about it for ages.
Might just add that he has form. He got hurt a few times in Yr 1 because he stood up to some boys who were bullying his best friend.
Now what do you say:
- Well done for standing up for your friend. It's good to stand up for someone who needs help etc.
- Don't be so ridiculous. Violence solves nothing. And he's bigger than you anyway?
I tend towards the latter - terrified of him turning into a thug (and getting hurt). DH tend towards the former.