Actually that is not true overall but it seems like it whenever DH is around. Now I understand that it is normal for children to have preferences but she is only one year old! She will scream if I try to take her from him (and fight to get over to back to him) and always goes to him if there is an option. She even gets cross if I get her out of her highchair rather than him. Upsetting though this is I could just about rationalise it. After all, he is away a lot/works late so when he is home in the evenings it usually for the bathtime and stories bit - not the dinner and clearing up- and at weekends he generally just carries her around (and applauds her every move!) rather than encouraging her to play. However, recently this behaviour has started to happen with the nanny! (I work 3-4 days). Obviously none of the above arguments apply to her as she sees her all the time.
What am I doing wrong? We do have a good time when we are together, I play with her, she is affectionate and I can always make her laugh. Yet when I come home from work, she seems happy to see me but then will cry when she realises the nanny is leaving. I know I shouldn't get upset but I can't help it. I am finding it increasingly difficult to deal with. If I know Dh will be home before me I almost don't bother to rush home from work as I know I'll be sidelined and just end up with the chores- cos she won't let go of DH. And as for the humiliation of having your DD scream as you try and take her from the nanny...
Has anyone else had this? Have tried to mentioning it to a couple of friends with similar age children but they just look at me as if I am mad (or an ogre). Any advice or experience would be great as I am getting so down about this.
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Help please! My one year old DD doesn't like me.
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mumatsea · 06/06/2008 19:21
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