My DS is 2.5, and wanting to do a lot of things himself, HIS way of course!
He wants to undress himself, which is fine sometimes, but other times he can't do it (eg certain tops come off easier than others). He then gets distraught, but screams even more if I try to help.
If we need to go upstairs to get a clean nappy, he often wants to stay downstairs. If we need to go downstairs to eat, he often wants to stay upstairs.
If we're gong out in the car, he wants to climb into the car seat himself, but then wants to clamber over to the front, to the driver's seat.
Of course I expect all these things, it's normal for his age I'm sure. But I just wondered how people deal with it.
Should I negotiate:- let's go upstairs now, and then we'll get a clean nappy, and we can go to the park. If you let me help you undress, we'll be able to read lots of nice stories after your bath. Let's go down for breakfast, I'll give you a piggy-back. etc etc etc. It's not bribery exactly, more a case of pointing out the advantages to my chosen course of action! But it takes an eternity.
Or should I ask a few times, to give him the chance to do what I'm asking, then lift him up and carry him myself, or take his clothes off myself etc?
Any thoughts?
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2.5 year old - do you negotiate or manhandle?!
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RachelG · 02/03/2008 21:09
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