some help with this would be appreciated

[ilovewashingnappies]

Mummy likes mornings and hates staying up late. Daddy is a nightowl but finds it harder to wake in the morning. Emily is gorgeous and 4 months old. (favourite song is wheels on the bus)

How it used to be: I would go up in evening, change Emily, breast feed (usually till I feel asleep!) while Daddy locked up and prepared bottle. He would come up, give Emily bottle, read to her and she sleeps till around 6/7. Mummy (feeling quite refreshed.......well sometimes!) Would wake with Emily, feed, change etc and take downstairs for Daddy to sleep (depending on his shifts).

How it is now: Emily wants Mummy after 8/9 in eve. Screams if Daddy gives her a bottle. She takes both breast and bottle from me and I stay up with her. She's falling asleep later and later, doesn;t seem to matter how much she sleeps in the day. Husband has offered to get up and feed her but its usually her best breast feed of the day and...if I'm honest I LOVE feeding her in bed then getting her ready for the day.

I know Mum's are supposed to be knackered but I wonder if you wise folks have any advise or reassurance because:

Mummy is VERY tired, even when snatched a nap in the day and getting grumpy. Daddy is sad that he no longer has his special bottle time and that he has a grumpy wife (he'd never say it!)

Any suggestions?

[cherryredretrochick]

Only reassurance I can offer is that it really doesn't last that long and if you enjoy it just treasure the moment and drink lots of coffee in the day. Your dh sounds lovely, perhaps he could do bath or a massage.

[chankins]

Ahh bless her - I know it can be exhausting, but they do go through this phase. Perhaps perserver with daddy doing his bit, and she'll get back into it again.
Md ds is 7 mo and quite dislikes his daddy at the mo ! He just wants me, and cries if daddy holds him and he can still see me. Dd1 was the same but soon came out of it. dd2 didn't care who did anything with her and still doesn't.

[ilovewashingnappies]

AM definitley treasuring - suppose its my husband I most feel for....

Most go now as she is very upset

[gigglewitch]

my dc went thru this too - at different ages

i think the massage idea is a good one, or how about daddy bath her (at evening time to suit daddy?) we found that we could get through one of these stages by doing a totally new 'routine' and basically baffling the baby
hang in there daddy, in another couple of months it will probably be the other way round and mum won't be getting a look in so will be forced to sleep, shop, catch up with friends on phone etc

[cherryredretrochick]

remember all girls turn into daddy's girls eventually. Give your dh some extra hugs though.