Shy baby and coffee mornings

[leonieandevie]

I'm not a paranoid mum (honest!) but I think my DD (6 months 3 wks) is really shy with other babies. She's fine with most adults but when shes at her numerous classes she's terribly withdrawn and introverted. She's got a wicked personality and I'm no longer worried about her development but wondered if there's any way I can make her enjoy music, swimming etc with the others? She had another screaming fit at Little Dippers and only stopped when I went underwater with her meanwhile all of the other babies were virtually doig laps on their own.
Where have all the old fashioned coffee mornings gone? I'm fed up with having to pay for her to either be little miss shy or kick up a tantrum. Please is anyone knows of one in Brighton I'd be really grateful!

[HonoriaGlossop]

She's a baby, she doesn't need music and swimming classes. It could be literally YEARS before she is ready to enjoy those.
i certainly wouldn't be paying for a six month old to go to classes. Save your money; plenty of time to pay for classes all throughout childhood, don't need to start yet!

i'd say forget the classes altogether; take her swimming with you just for fun if you want to, that sort of thing.

Agree with mmj that socialisation is for YOU, not her at 6 months old, so go somewhere YOU want to where YOU feel comfortable. All she wants is to be with you anyway!

[leonieandevie]

I know she doesnt need these classes but now I've paid for them feel I should go. Think I've been a bit of a sheep following others with this. I'm normally really chilled out and love being a mum but these classes make everyone compare their little ones and I agree, there are plenty of years to come when she'll really need them. Am part of NCT group but would like to find regular laid back mums group to relax at too. Tootsies is a bit stressful. Alternatively think best bet would be to move to a remote island where ladies sit in grass skirts, let their boobs hang out and enjoy their babies naturally! x Thanks for advice - think I need a kick up the jacksy.

[PrettyCandles]

She's also quite possibly getting into separation anxiety, and all these other babies and mummies stress her out a bit too much.

[HonoriaGlossop]

leonie, hope you find the sort of group you want. I certainly never found a 'laid back mums group to relax at'. sorry to be negative. But as you say, the groups I tried were simply two sorts of mums, either they ignore all newcomers completely because they already HAVE their 'friends' sorted (and look at you as if you are a bad smell if you attempt to MAKE CONVERSATION with them) or you get the mum who wants to tell you baby Johnny's acheivements and how ADVANCED he is for his age.......

i gave up! Hope you have better luck than me though, seriously.