Hi Parents, NC for this as I am bit mortified and appreciate the anonymity.
Background: DC is 13 months, generally a very happy, smiley and content little boy. He’s walking, babbling, eating well, sleeping well etc. DH and I practice gentle parenting, been cosleeping and contact napping from the beginning, all his needs are met, he’s very much loved and is cared for to the best of our abilities. We go out most days and we have lots of play times, reading etc...
The issue: for the last about two months, he started regularly biting, scratching / pinching and pulling hair and it’s been gradually getting worse and stronger. We understand we can’t possibly discipline a 13m old and have no intention to do so, and of course he doesn’t understand that what he does causes pain and is not acceptable. I’ve read a lot of blogs / advice as to how to deal with it ie: not to react, distracting with a toy, show how to stroke when he is pulling on hair etc but nothing seems to be working, and if it does, it’s only short lived and half an hour later we are back to square one.
Sometimes it’s during play, but sometimes it’s completely out of the blue, for example today, after breakfast DS was playing with his toys quietly so I was just check my emails at the table. Next thing I know, he runs up to me and bites my thigh. He has both sets of front teeth (9 in total) so it really hurt. He broke the skin and I was in tears. Both from pain but mainly from sheer frustration. Same with the hair. I’d just be picking him up to look out the window and he’d just grab my hair and pull a chunk out. He does it to both DH and me equally (My hair is always tied up but it doesn’t matter, he takes it apart) and DH has a beard which also gets it.
I’m worried and I’d like some advice please! I’m hoping it’s a phase, I know he’s exploring and finding it exciting that he can get a reaction etc but he is starting nursery in a couple of months and frankly, I’d like him to have some friends and not do this to teachers and other children. As much as it may be normal (I don’t actually know anymore, is it???) I would just like to find a way to deal with it as we are at our wits end and it’s a constant “ouch!” “agghhh!” “Stoooop!!” in our house these days :(
What would you suggest we do? Have you experienced this at all? Friends aren’t very helpful as either they can’t remember or haven’t had to deal with it...
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Toddler biting and pulling hair - help!!!
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SeaSandSunshine · 28/03/2021 22:47
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