Birthday party

[Min23]

Hi everyone,
I am new to this . I need some suggestions . My daughter's classmate friend is having a birthday party and she invited the whole class except my daughter. My daughter has never had any trouble in school with other kids. But I think I am not a very social parent and I don't know whether she is left out because of me. May be they don't like me or may be they don't think that me and my daughter is not a good influence on them . I am a very shy person and I avoid talking but I am not a rude person. Please help me what should I do ? Is it may be because I am from indian background? I know that parents organize limited persons birthday party and I can totally understand in that case my daughter is not being invited. But this time she is the only one in the whole class left out . What should I do ?

[underneaththeash]

It's a bit odd that she's the only one not invited. It's also unlikely that she's not invited you as you're Indian decent - unless the family are part of some white supremicist organisation (in which case you wouldn't want your daughter to mix with them!)

Are you absolutely sure that there isn't an invite anywhere in her bag? Is your email/phone number written down incorrectly on the class list.

How did you find out about the party, was it another parent who mentioned it or your daughter? If it was another parent, you could maybe find out from them why she wasn't invited. You could also try the teacher and double check that there are no friendship issues.

[Min23]

Thanks for replying . I am also unsure why this is happened. I am ok with everyone ad my daughter too. She invited everyone with phone message and she has my number and she is friends with me on FB. My daughter find it out in class by the birthday girl. Birthday girl told my daughter that you are the only one who is not invited and sorry . I am feeling helpless and I do not know what to do? Where did we go wrong ? Like I said can it be because I am not an active parent in school . I feel terrible. How can I solve it ? Should I buy a gift for the birthday girl and give it to her on Monday? Party is on Saturday.

[Min23]

Sorry for so many questions? What should I ask teacher ? Will it be appropriate?

[surreygirl1987]

I would definitely mention it to a teacher and ask her if she has noticed any issues between her and the other girls. Very odd! Is your daughter okay?

[Min23]

She is sad . And felt left out . She is talking depressed like , there must be some fault in her . I explained it to her by saying that they might not have our number. Should I give her a gift to avoid any confusion happened from my side . This is very new to me and i realty don't know what to do .
Thanks a lot for replying me

[surreygirl1987]

Aw the poor girl! Definitely talk to the teacher and ask for advice. Do you ever run into the girl's mother? Could you pass on a birthday present for the girl to the mother and try to have a quiet word with her - perhaps she can shed some light?

[Min23]

Thanks a lot I will do that .