My partners daughters behaviour is so out of control I'm not sure what to do to help, a little bit of background, my partner currently have residency of his 3 children, mum only has supervised access for around 2h twice a week, due to her abusive behaviour towards my ex and the children, the oldest boy is fine great lad the youngest girl 5 she's fine to normal 5y behaviour but the 7y girl is out of control I have 5 children of my own from teens to a 2 year old my parenting skills are fine noones prefect I've also worked with kids most of my life, so I'm a wee bit savy, problem is this is something abit more than what I've seen before I'll give you a run down of her behavior, she spits alot on people mainly her brother and sister, she will pour liquids over them anything that's close to hand, I've seen her physicaly pull her wee sister across the floor by the hair, she kicks pinches scratches nips slaps and scratches faces, screams in your face screams everything she's saying won't do anything she is asked she stretches and destroys her clothes refuses to where clothes even underware in the house, she is extremely physically and verbally abusive to her dad constantly hitting him as hard as she can swares at him calls him names, she will take her seat belt of in the car as its driving and refuse to sit down or put it back on, she will pull and scratch at her dad while he's driving its so dangerous I now have him pull over and stop the car till she's back in her seat belt, this is on a constant daily basis this is happing I not there all the time I live abit further away and have my own children to look after but I am there at weekends and I will speak to the kids threw facetime each day, I'm trying to help but there is only so much I can do, it's at a point where we can't take her even for lunch her behaviour is so bad, my partner has spoke about us living together and I've had to tell him that as things are I won't bring my kids into that situation it's far to violent it wouldn't be fair on them, his children are heavily evolved with social services, he's not very much support and works 6 days a week night shifts, so sleeps all day while the kids are at school, he's not sure how to approach her behaviour and is struggling to control it where she's not being punished like the other kids do when she's naughty, I'm finding it difficult not only cause she's hard to control but my hands are tied on helping to much cause she not mine I'm trying to encourage her more and chastise the behaviour so she doesn't seriously hurt someone, my partner is not being honest about her behaviour for fear the kids will be took of him if hes honest and says he's not coping with it, so he tell them she's OK most of the time when she isn't shes physically abusing her dad and brother and sister, then this weekend she went to raise her hand at me!! It's causing a few problems in our relationship cause I don't feel she's getting the help she needs and he's letting her away with it, I have to put my animal out of my house when she visits because she's so ruff with them to a point my cats leg got injured, I don't know what to do I've never seen behaviour as bad before and I've seen alot of children with problems I know she needs play therapy counselling and structure but my hands are tied and I'm afraid of saying to much and it ruining my relationship
Sorry for the long rant I'm worried as to where it will lead for her unless it's sorted out
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Gemz140785 · 09/10/2019 10:33
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