I need help. I’m pulling my hair out. Especially this evening. I need advice, not “its normal” etc. I am a single mum, father not around, that’s a different story and he walked away, but my 5 year old daughter is hell at bedtime.
I get punched, kicked, screamed at right in my face she spits in my face.
She is in a routine, we put the toys away, do teeth have story etc all that is good. It’s actually going to sleep.
Over the weekend I got 3 hours Saturday night and 3 hours Sunday because of this. So tonight I got in my bed at 7pm when she did. Was fine, she was going to sleep, until I fell asleep. She had come to my bed and woke me up, I said why did you wake me up she said I don’t know. I explained that she shouldn’t wake me unless she actually needs me. I proceeded to get kicked, spat on, yelled at, screamed at all because I told her to get in bed.
She doesn’t have ADHD or anything as she’s lovely at school and to other people but I feel like I’m her worst enemy.
Her father was violent and had a massive temper (it was an abusive relationship, he was violent and abusive towards me and he hasn’t been around since 11 weeks old) it’s not as if she remembered anything cos she was so young.
She’s told me she loves other people more than me. I feel bullied by her and she’s only 5??
I’ve spoken to my mum and she goes “you need to do what she wants you to do” and when I tell her off my mum goes “I don’t like it when she has a paddy and cries” I’m thinking well she needs to know right from wrong or she’s never gonna learn.
Time out in hallway is now not working, because as soon as she’s been there and I’ve explained why she’s been there and she’s apologised etc she’s back to being naughty again.
I hate to say this but I hate being a mum at the moment. There’s no joy in it at the moment. I used to love it. But now I don’t.
I’ve walked out the bedroom and she’s followed me into mine and just full blown kicked me, I have bruises on my legs.
I need advise on how to deal with it. Please don’t leave negative comments, I won’t reply to them, I need ones that can actually help me.
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Bedtime Help Please
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LoveMyDaughterT · 08/07/2019 20:14
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