My daughter, aged 18 months, is going through a terribly clingy phase and it's driving me spare!
She is fine if we are on our own together (or with Daddy, although I am preferred to him at the moment!). But if we're in company (no matter how many other mums & toddlers), she is impossible - hanging onto my leg if I'm standing up, or trying to sit on my lap if I' sitting down. If I talk to someone she pulls at me to come away with her and play, throwing a tantrum or whinging, if I refuse (which I have been doing!) Going to playgroup is getting hard, and even a simple coffee morning with one other mum is difficult.
I have traditionally spent a lot of time with her (she is left quite regularly with my mum or mother-in-law, but doesnt' go to nursery). I love being hands on with her, but am now starting to think I've created a rod for my own back, as she finds it difficult to play on her own (she's a first child).
She's very mobile, and seems to have a very good ear for language, so she doesn't get too frustrated making herself understood. We have moved house twice in the last 6 months though (the second time within the same area), so maybe she's just unsettled.
My tactics so far have been to explain gently that mummy is talking / standing / sitting here, and that she is fine to go and play with whatever toy she has at the moment. I've also tried getting down on the floor and getting her started with the toy, and then withdrawing. I'm happy to stay in the same room as her - I'd just like to see her relax and occupy herself a bit!
Does anyone have any tips for how I might do things better?
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Utka · 14/08/2002 14:34
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