DD is in year 7. Has had some bullying issues in primary but never effected her behaviour other than she was quite withdrawn.
Since October, she is in constant trouble at school. She is rude to me constantly.
She has been withdrawn from classes several times for disruption, and has been part of in school exclusions several times for fighting.
Nothing I do is getting through to her, she is seriously close to being kicked out of school. It's only her mentor who is stopping the head of year kicking her out at this point.
I've tried removing tech, TV time, not let her have mates over, early bed time, you name it, I've tried it. I've tried talking to her, she blames everyone but herself, the teachers "pick on her" other pupils "wind her up". She's been given a time out card so if class is getting too much she can have ten minutes out, a teacher will then come out and see what's going on. She has never bothered using it though. She was allowed to move maths classes as the school recognised she was struggling in the class she was in and with the group of kids she was with so I felt the school were very understanding on that and went along with their suggestion. At that point she only said that specific teacher had an issue with her, but now there are about 6(!) who she swears are against her. And when I say I don't buy it, one is feasible (just- we all remember having one teacher who we thought was an arse and we thought felt the same way) but 6 plus the head of year is ridiculous. But then she screams at me that I'm bullying her and hate her for saying so. That's all she does, just total aggression.
She used to love singing and acting, now she doesn't bother, the school have lots of clubs going all for free and she only goes to cheer squad or her best friend can't go anymore.
It's all come to a head. We were meant to go to town after school- first time in months she's shown any interest in doing anything with me. It's her Dad's birthday party on Saturday and we have bought her something nice to wear, but even that has caused arguments as she wants to wear her usual sloppy outfit of leggings and a sweatshirt, so I said she could have some more chunky boots and make her outfit a bit edgy like the YouTubers she likes. When she got in the car she said she had been kicked out of class-second time since Friday. So I said she was grounded. I told her she was lucky it's a party for her dad or she wouldn't be going. I was cross with her because I've repeatedly told her she needs to stop it, at the moment they school will see it as a temporary blip because she's settling in but if she carries on, the staff will end up refusing to teach her and she will be kicked out.
She blamed teacher and pupils again. She then acts to her dad that I've been awful to her and cries rather than anger like I get. Now he's been miffed with me saying me telling her off isn't helping. But then he told her off as well.
Honestly don't know what to do. She has a little group of three friends and none of them are like this. I worry that the teachers just see her as a little trouble maker now and even if she isn't at fault she's going to automatically get in trouble.
She's never been violent to anyone before this, she's even kicked me recently and hits her younger brother. When she's at home she goes to bed as soon as she gets home from school, but she doesn't sleep until gone 11pm then says she's tired. She shows no interest in anything anymore. I've checked her phone in case of bullying or anything else and nothing. If anything she tells a girl from primary that everything is cool at school!
I'm so worried.
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PassTheDutchie · 20/03/2019 08:24
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