So my daughter is 6, one of the youngest in her P3 class. She has always had trouble adapting to change (when siblings were born, new teachers in school, even little things like when I bought her a new bed). Her behaviour just becomes completely unmanageable- she will act like a histerical toddler (taking off clothes and screaming, wetting herself deliberately, being completely defiant, trashing her bedroom, being nasty to me and hitting her brother etc) generally the behaviour is on and off awful for months at a big change or shorter the smaller the change. She has been this way really her whole life. I imagine it doesn't help that her dad and I are separated and she has the upheaval of going to his house 1 night a week where there are no rules. So my youngest was born in June and all summer the awful behaviour started again. I did the whole positive reinforcement, one to one time, star charts etc and (as much as possible!!!) ignoring the bad behaviour. It improved drastically to a point she is pretty much back to normal at home now. Unfortunately at school she is still defiant when she doesn't want to do work and she says very negative comments like I'm useless, I want to die etc. She is very clever so she doesn't struggle with the work at all. She loved her P2 teacher and is always diffiult at the start of the year so to be honest I'm not overly surprised and have explained all this to her teacher. I have told teacher what I do and what I think works when she's in a funk. (generally ignoring it or making her laugh or praising the ones around her) Teacher says she's never seen a child with such negative self image so I have to get her counselling. Obviously I was concerned and took her to the gp for an emergency appointment. He went off and did some research and came back and said that it would actually compound the behaviour if I was to highlight it and make her feel different to her peers etc, that with the new teacher and the baby she is unsettled and I just need to give her time. So I took his advice and explained this to the teacher. The teacher has however asked if she can start taking her out of class every day for 10-20 mins to do a book which is about emotions Etc. She is then going to record her responses every day. I am unsure if this is the best course of action as it is against what her gp has told me to do? I have asked what she wants to do and she said she enjoyed the book so is happy to do it. I am more concerned that she will start to question if she is different and if her peers will start to ask questions etc. Should I be telling her teacher to leave her alone??? She is not disruptive in class and is on track, apparently her work is very good. She will just be negative and will not do her work properly if she doesn't feel like it (This is only occasionally). HELP!! I am at a loss as to what to do!
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Mentalmum91 · 06/11/2018 10:16
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