I know it sounds strange but I'm seriously at the end of my tether with this. As a bit of back ground my DD7 is a very tactile person (bites nails, will fixate on something small and carry it/ sleep with it for days at a time) her fingers seem to always need to be moving. Some of it is habit and some can be seen alongside tiredness and anxiety. She struggles in social groups, isn't very good and reading situations and often lives in her own world. We've spoken to doctors before about if she is on the autistic spectrum but get brushed aside and told there is nothing big enough there to investigate.
However when it comes to her brother she just doesn't seem to know she's hurting him, they can be sat next to each other on the sofa perfectly happy sharing a book, watching tv or having a snack and her hand will float over to his arm and pinch him. She will walk into a room where he is happily playing and walk up to him to see what he's doing and stand on him. If you see her arm moving and say don't hurt him, she'll look at her hand in surprise like she doesn't know how it's moved. A couple of times recently when I've told her off for doing it and asked why she's said my brain told me to or my hand did it on its own.
We've tried punishing it (time out, no treats), she is always made to apologise, we've even tried ignoring it for a while to see if it was attention seeking but it still continues. Today when her answer to hurting him was well I said sorry, I pushed her and said sorry, she got upset and said I was mean, so I said yes I was it wasn't nice was it. How do you think DS feels when you do it to him. She agreed sad and it wasn't nice. We all made friends and after something she said I promised her an hour at the weekend just to two of us no DS or DH to do something of her choosing. Not 10 mins later she shut a door on his leg because it was in the way rather than ask him to move! Now not 20 mins later they are sat together playing a game they've made up like best friends.
Has anyone dealt with something like this before? Has anything worked?
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Help with 7 year old who won't stop hurting her brother
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wintersdawn · 03/08/2018 14:03
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