Always whingeing

[AAsmummy]

My one year old son, whinges about 60% of the day. The only time that he does not have something to complain about is:

• immediatly after being fed (he moans throughout feeding!)
  
  
• when going for a walk
  
  
• when playing in the garden.
  
  He has a twin sister who only moans when she is tired or hungry.
  
  Is this normal for a boy?

[chinchilla]

Yes, my ds is exactly the same. He is ok when out and about, but if at home spends most of his time whinging.

I asked my HV about it, and she said that it is a sign of a bright child, and that he will stop moaning when he can walk and talk, because then he will be able to do more things for himself, and will not be frustrated all the time.

My ds is one too, so both of us don't have much longer to wait!! All I can say is, try to keep a sense of humour about it. When my ds was little, I used to get very down about it, and so did dh, but now I can 'ignore' it if I know that he is fed, changed etc. I try to get him out of the house as much as possible.

Good luck, and keep in touch to let me know if yours stops!

[AAsmummy]

Chinchilla, thanks for the supportive comments. I must admit that I have been ignoring it up until now, but every now and again I wonder if there is something wrong with him, though he has been like it all his life!

I will let you know if he does stop. Good luck too!

[mears]

This is normal for a boy. My ds no.1 is the worst and he is now 15yrs! Learn to rise above it

[oxocube]

Ohh, Muuuumm !! So true!

[susanmt]

My dd was like this when she was about that age - we reckoned it was frustration with not being able to walk. Then she went through another spell like it at about 2, when she had so much to say but we couldnt really understand her. It settled down pretty quickly once she sorted out her words.
All the best though, I know how wearing it can be!

[AAsmummy]

Mears, what a complete nightmare. I think I will go mad if I have to put up with it for 15 years+!

[SueDonim]

MY dd started whinging the moment she was born and still whinges at times!!! Luckily, she is mostly a happy soul, but it does wear you down.

The thing that helped me was to remember that just beause she was whinging about something didn't mean I had to do anything. Sometimes they just have to get on with it and find their own solutions.

[AAsmummy]

SueDonim, Thanks for the advice, I will keep it in the back of my mind for those trying moments.

[Tetley]

My ds (21 months) has always been a fairly happy laid back individual. However, he's now rapidly turning into toddler form hell!! I don't think he's stopped whining, screaming or crying for 3 days now.

Occasionally he stops for air, but then usually does something he knows he's not supposed to, e.g. this morning's misdemeanours were pulling the landing carpet up, then tipping the cat food all over the kitchen floor!! This then of course means I say the 'No' word - which sets off the next lot of crying. I presume that this is just the delights of toddlerhood - but I don't know if I can stand it - it's driving me crackers...

[Enid]

Tetley, poor you - being pregnant certainly doesn't make it any easier to deal with a demanding toddler!

If its any consolation, I always think these horrible periods come before a leap in development, so he might surprise you with something new in the next couple of days.

Could he be tired? Dd's childminder came up with a good description of dd when she was over-tired - its as though there are two of her. That's certainly how it feels some days.

How are you feeling Tetley - I remember you are due about the same time as me, mid October?

[Tetley]

Thanks for your sympathetic words Enid. I don't think he's tired - he's actaully slept until at least 6.30 the last couple of mornings (which is a minor miracle in itself!). He's had both sets of grandparents around this weekend, which I think has probably unsettled him a bit. My parents are temporarily living just up the road (since last week) rather than 70 miles away, so he's seeing a lot of them, and is very clingy with my Mum. So I suppose it's just a combination of everything (including being a toddler) - boy, has he got a temper!! Actually I'll probably have to admit that he's inherited that from me, so I can't blame anyone else there

I'm not feeling too bad - some back ache - but going to see an osteopath tomorrow - so hopefully I'll feel better after that. I haven't been sick for over a week now - hurray!!!! Let's hope it continues.

Hope you're well too, Enid.

[Bootyful]

Oh how I can relate to this - dd whinged from the moment she was born until she was about 15 months old (last month to be exact). I have to confess though, now she is confidently walking she really is much happier. I firmly believe that her whinging stemmed from frustration.

My ds was exactly the same (although dd has been worse than he ever was) - I just don't have happy babies. On a positive note, ds is 4.5 now and such a happy chappy, dd seems to be heading that way now she is more independant.

[Rhubarb]

My dh is always whingeing - maybe he's going through some kind of development stage too? Wonder if a dummy would work for him?

Anyway, on a serious note - my dd also goes through a whingeing patch just before she learns something new, I put it down to her brain growing! I think my dh's might be shrinking though

[Chinchilla]

AAsmummy - Any change? My ds seems to have changed just in the last few days. Now, instead of moaning every two minutes, he moans every five-ten minutes, and makes other, more delightful noises the rest of the time.

He still moans when restricted for a while, like in his high chair - why eat when you can be crawling around?! The turn around seems to have stemmed from him being able to stand alone for a few seconds, and getting a lot of praise for things.

Having said that, he still gets really frustrated at times, and does still have times which make me feel really worn out with it all. However, I am hopeful for the walking and talking stage to put an end to this...

Look forward to your update