4 year old behaviour

[Anxiousmumof3]

Hi
This is my first post on here and I hope somebody can help.

My 4 year old who is at school has Started waking between 4 am and 5.30. Will turn light on and jump off bed or jump on little brothers bed.
We will go in to take him out of the room to let his brother sleep and tell him to be quiet and to stop it...
The response at the Top of his voice is ;
Will not
No
Am not
I don't want to
Go away

We will then tell him to go down stairs and he just screams all the above again and goes mental.

We then have to physically take him downstairs and wait for him to calm down which can take 20 mins.

This has been going on for a few months now and it seems that we are in this viscous circle with no way out.

He goes to bed between 7.30 and 8pm and doesn't get up through the night.
He doesn't drink fizzy pop and is limited to play time on a tablet.

Please can somebody advise what to do.

[familylifeiseverything]

Sorry to hear that you are suffering but hopefully there will be some pearls of wisdom on here. I'm afraid my advice is quite tough but we have strict boundaries with our two (3.5 and 2) but it has worked or working for a large part of the time.

If he is behaving in such a way then remove the tablet/iPad from him until his behaviour changes.

They need to know that this behaviour is not acceptable and removing things that they love will show them. You need to block out the noise of screaming and shouting etc and only communicate when they are calm.

We have a reward system of when good things happen then they collect marbles in their jar (could be anything to suit) and when bad behaviour happens then marbles are removed. You set the number of marbles for each behaviour good or bad and then when it is full they get a reward (trip out or iPad retuned etc)

Have you tried the groclock also? This is a good way for them to get up when the sun comes up. We do not allow either to get out of their room before the sun shows on the clock. They can play in their room but cannot come out.

Sadly this is not an overnight fix and it takes will power to ignore their tantrums and whining and shouting and you have to try to imagine you're in a nice beach and not at home dealing with screaming toddlers 😂

Hope this helps and stick with it and keep the boundaries rigid and the same between you and your partner 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

[EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic]

Sounds hard, you must all be tired. Do you have any idea why this has started?

Some things to try are:

The Groclock as already mentioned

Teaching him to read the time

Making sure that he is warm enough

Making sure he can reach water and a book

Making sure he’s eaten enough. There are tips on foods to eat to induce sleep here

This book may help

Is he getting enough exercise too?