Hi everyone,
I am after some advice, I really hope I am not alone, but my 7 year old daughter has me at breaking point and I don't know what to do.
My daughter has a happy life, lovely house, huge bedroom, pets - including a much wanted (begged for!) snake who lives in her bedroom!
This may come across as spoilt, maybe! But I don't let her have everything/her own way whenever she wants.
She has a 3 year old brother, they do argue but I would say they have a good relationship in general!
But her attitude is horrific, mostly towards me, I would say we are well into a year of this - this doesn't appear to be a "passing phase"
I have tried to change my behavior to help avoid these episodes, I talk calmly in one tone, I explain the situation and try and defuse the situation, nothing works!
When she wakes in the morning I am very cheery (I try and keep her in a happy mood, very rarely works but I try!)
I usually say "Morning babe you ok? Make sure you have your breakfast and get dressed before TV this morning ok? Or you will be late for school and we dont want that" She is always huffing, puffing, shouting at me to do things for her, not getting dressed or eat her food quick enough so we are always late... I eventually lose my s**t!
I could have talked cool as a cucumber for an hour before I can't take it anymore.
This is a daily battle, every. single. day.
She is good at school, good for grandparents, generally a kind child, but to me she is horrendous.
I feel like a failure because I don't enjoy her company.
Yes sometimes we have good moments, but her attitude hangs over the day like a dark cloud, and very rarely do we have a day without it.
I get "im tired" or "you brought me up like this" thrown at me when I ask why she is so unkind to me.
Anyway I have typed enough, basically her attitude is making me miserable and I end up snapping at some point where I lose my cool and she cries and says im the worst mum ever etc
Not sure where I go from here... I have tried taking things off her, rewards charts etc but nothing works for long.
Any advice to help break this awful cycle will be much appreciated!
Stressed out mum!
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7 year old is breaking me!!
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Dougaltmr · 29/01/2018 11:09
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