I feel so bad about this. My four year old DD has been wetting herself for years.
When she was about 18 months old, I noticed she was waking up dry every night so I introduced the potty (gently). It was summer, we had laminate floors, so she had a lot of naked time and was in knickers surprisingly quickly, although I still needed to help her of course.
Time went on, and I always supported her by reminding her to use the toilet or helping with clothing etc. I thought she was doing well, but we had a few set backs when we moved house (3 houses in six months, it was crazy) and then I was pregnant/new baby. She would wet herself more often after these stressful times, but I accepted that as normal and tried to carry on.
But now she's four and still wets herself 2-5+ times a day. I spoke to our health visitor about it, who took me very seriously and said it could very well be a physical issue. We've already been to the GP and she doesn't have an infection, but there may well be a hormone imbalance.
It's suddenly become clear to me that all those times she's had so-called setbacks have actually just been times when I haven't been actively managing her toileting through constant reminders. She knows what the toilet is for, and she's happy to go, but it would appear that she doesn't have a clear sensation of a full bladder or something?
Just tonight she was changing out of wet trousers (again) and was urinating on the floor as she did so, apparently oblivious. (She said she didn't know, at any rate, but it's hard to say if that is accurate)
I feel so tired and rubbish. Is this my fault for putting her into knickers so young? She's been told off more than once for wetting herself while sitting on the couch or on my bed, and now I'm feeling horribly guilty because it seems she couldn't control it, and maybe never could really, it was just masked by me pre-empting the accidents.
The HV has referred her to the enuresis clinic even though she is younger than 5 because this issue is so long-standing. I just wish I'd left her in nappies until she was 3+ right now. I feel like I've damaged her.
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I've failed my four year old
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KiteMarked · 04/01/2018 21:45
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