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9yo causing trouble. Impulsive?(4 Posts)
He finds things that people dont like and does it all the more.
He knows a cue that sends the dogs into a frenzy (a noise they dont like) and so he deliberately does it. Sometimes resulting in them fighting.
He will deliberately hurt his brother or friends but claim it to be an accident. No matter how obvious it wasnt.
He will deny everything he does wrong and never admit fault. He would just attempt to argue his case. Or say he didnt realise the outcome that comes about would happen, even though it has...many times.
He will aggravate and then claim those he is aggravating are being nasty when they retaliate.
He will make statements to people, like this morning for example. I was waiting for a meeting and he said in a room with others, randomly, "ah i wasnt given any breakfast this morning" when he was offered but refused.
He does that fairly often - give a snippet of information that could be taken wrong, without correcting with the full picture.
I watched him run over and smack a friend. Friend hit back. Ds then tells his dad that he was hit for nothing. Even though i had told ds off for the actual event that happened. He got sympathy off dad and dad told him to make sure he hits him harder next time! (Dad doesnt live with us) and dad believes ds no matter what.
It seems like attention seeking and it very well might be, but to me it seems far more due to impulsiveness.
Can anybody relate?
My DC will say things like “I haven’t had breakfast this morning” when you know they have. How do you react?
I dont usually react to things like him claiming not to have breakfast.
I will react to the times i have watched him do wrong for him to deny it. By explaining what was wrong, issue a consequence if needed etc
I’m not it ready reallyvsure this one sorry. You might get some more responses if you post in the Preteens section