DD is 2.2. Over the last 3-4 weeks she has been becoming more and more clingy and hysterical for no apparent reason.
My first clear recollection of this was when we were in the loo at Morrisons - a cleaning lady walked in while we were washing our hands and she went absolutely bats, roaring with fear, clinging onto me, floods of tears etc. I assumed it was just because she'd gotten a shock, did my best to comfort her, and carried on.
Since then, it has gotten worse and worse. She now won't run ahead of me in the park if she can't see where the path goes, if we're going along a 'strange' road she also gets nervy and will want to be carried all the time (too darn heavy adn I have a bad back!), if a stranger comes near her she will again have a hissy fit, if we go anywhere new or different she will cling to me and get very agitated about doors leading off to other rooms (ie I had to get a new tyre, while we were waiting in the reception she got absolutely paranoid about the door leading off to the client toilets, would not even let me take her there to show her there was nothign to be scared of! On Sunday we were around at a friends, she was pottering about quite happily then suddenly became terrified of something neither of us could see and demanded to be picked up again.
Yesterday was the last straw - I asked nursery when picking her up how her day had been 'oh, fine, fine' - I then said oh, good, because dd has been v. clingy and afraid of 'nothing' lately, it then came out that when they had taken her to the loo, she had seen a mop in a bucket where it normally wasn't, and gone completely loopy, to the point where she'd wet herself with fear.
Now, aside from the issue of the nursery woman's selective memory (which I am FURIOUS about!), this is so different from my bold, confident, happy little girl of a month ago, I can't help but wonder if something is causing it. Apart from the initial shock in Morrisons loos, I'm certainly not aware of any traumatic incident that might have caused it (not that I can rely on the nursery to tell me, mutter mutter).
She has also gone slightly backwards in her toilet training, in that she is demanding a nappy to do a poo in (this happened about the same time as the Morrisons incident). She is still going to the loo to do a wee without issues.
So, I suppose what I'm asking is -
Have you experienced this with your dc?
Is it a phase? (please, please, tell me it's a phase!)
What, if anything, could be the cause of this?
Given that she becomes jumpy when she can't see what's coming/suddenly notices new things in a room, should I get her eyes/ears tested? Can you test a 2.2 yr old's eyes?
Also - do I jolly her along or not? I've been picking her up and cuddling her, talking soothingly to her, but have also been saying 'there's nothing there, look, don't be silly' - is this the right thing to do? OH says not to pick her up, it's pandering to her, but I can't help feel that will only make her anxiety worse!
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Sudden hysteria - normal? underlying cause?? worried as hell.... (sorry, long)
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Lovecat · 24/04/2007 06:45
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