My 3yo won't stop hurting me!

[90percentcoffee]

My 3 year old son has suddenly started hurting me. I feel like a complete failure.

He's always been a bit cheeky but I always kept on top of it an he's a lovely little boy, until a few months ago. His tantrums have been getting worse and worse and I don't know how to stop him. I've changed his routine, I've tried taking items away, I've done charts, the naughty step, w sending him to his bedroom. Nothing works. I've spoken to his nursery and they couldn't believe I was talking about the same child, he's an angel for them. They gave me advice but it doesn't work, he's even stopped listening to my partner now as well. I feel completely useless and don't know what else to do.

Yesterday he bit me so hard that he managed to leave a massive bruise through my think jumper, he was pulling my hair and smacking me in the face and kicking me. I don't know what to do. My partner is not his biological dad but he has been there since he was 6 months old. Biological dad is no help, thinks it's hilarious.

Last night he was awake till 4am attacking me, my partner works nights but came home early because of how bad my son was being. I know I sound so pathetic and I feel like the worlds worse mum. I expect I'll get some comments of judgment but you honestly couldn't say anything worse than I already feel.

A family member has 15+ years of experience as an early years practitioner and has a masters in childcare. Last year my son went to the nursery she run and she expressed her concerns to me of his lack of concentration and his ability to understand instructions, new nursery (nursery connected to the school he will attend) have no concerns and have said he is settled lovely.

I feel like I'm losing my mind. I don't know what to do. I'm sat in tears writing this, I'm not even sure what I want from this. Someone please advice me what to do? Has anyone been in the same situation? Am I just a bad mum?

Thanks

[Poshindevon]

You say you have a family member with relevant experience who has already expressed concerns about your childs behaviour, then she should be your first port of call. I am sure she can give you valuable insight into your child and his behaviour.

[BrightonMum36]

What do you do when he hurts you? I mean, what's your immediate reaction to the pain?