Baby crying all time & fussy

[Bella8]

Hello, DS is 8 months old and has been ALOT fussier than normal. He is having trouble getting off to sleep whether at night or through day. Little man is crying inconsolably at random times and is really upset and everything that normally works to soothe him doesn't. He is also extra fussy with his milk and although he does prefer his food he usually still has 2 of his 3 bottles even on an bad day. However for the first time yesterday he wouldn't take any milk all day no matter how i tried. He did eat all his meals and an extra yoghurt snack with him not having his milk and drank alittle water. This morning he polished off 7 oz bottle of milk and ate his breakfast, I feel he only drank his milk as he was thirsty with not having it the day before.

I don't think it's his teeth as he already has 4 on the top and 2 on the bottom and hasn't been that bad with teething, not like this.
DS won't go to sleep on his own anymore and comes in mine and DH's bed and we have to lay with him in dark pretending to go to sleep so that he will go to sleep or he won't go to sleep. Than I have to transfer him to cot; if he wakes I have to do whole thing again and transfer him back. Through day he falls asleep next to me on sofa then I put him up and I know it's not ideal but we've don't this for a long time and it works well and he usually sleeps and connects sleep cycles in his cot no problem. He was sleeping through the night as well until recently where he is very fussy. This fussiness is worse when he's first going to sleep. I've tried putting him in his cot earlier but he cries eyes out unless he's in the bed with me and DH just to go off to sleep. I don't like this as worry I'll fall asleep with him around dangerous bedding. Sometime it can take him ages to get to sleep.

Is this a growth spurt/developmental leap? I'm at my wits end, little man isn't himself and is so grumpy. He is a different baby from the one I had a couple weeks ago.
I'm worried he's forming habits I can't break now. Can somebody please help?
Me and DH have no evenings and no time together. DH doesn't get get in until later so I give DS his dinner and than me and DH eat ours alittle later. DS won't go to sleep so is with us when we eat and cries through it and wants to go upstairs on our bed. So we have to eat our tea upstairs every night on the bed work trays in the dark and put tv off! We rush our tea so we can lay with him for him to go to sleep. DS wants lights Off and us to go to sleep with him or screams place down. I'm at wits end and want some of my life back as this is depressing!!

By time DS is asleep me and DH so exhausted we just want to sleep ourselves and it's late into night. We have no life and I can't go on like this. How long will this phase last??
I'm so sorry about the rant!

[EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic]

Does he have a temperature? Have you tried giving him a dose of Calpol to see if that improves his mood?

I think this is temporary but to help you through, could you eat dinner with him? At least that way you get to sit down instead of eating in your bedroom 🙂

If you are worried about having him in your bed, have you read the guidelines on safe bed sharing. Having baby in your bed is actually quite safe as long as you follow the guidelines.