My son is driving me crackers - he is sweet, generous and lovely most of the time, but he can turn on a sixpence and behave in a really mean way. He will hit, kick or push if he doesn't get his own way and will laugh or smile when we tell him that it's unacceptable.
Disciplining him is hard because he 'doesn't care' about anything when it comes to removing privileges and although I try to reward positive behaviour, he often gets enraged if I praise him for being kind or doing something nice and we end up in the same position as if had been horrible in the first place.
He just karate-chopped his little brother's arm, then smirked when I removed him and told him that it wasn't acceptable. I hauled him up to his room and told him to stay there until he could be kind, but I'm not really sure if that's a reasonable 'consequence' when he's now just up there playing.
My youngest threw a bottle which hit me earlier and my older specifically told me that he found it funny that I had been hurt. I told him that was an unkind thing to say and he 'doesn't care'. He yelled 'sorry' at me angrily which I said wasn't really an apology, and he did seem bothered that I said he'd hurt my feelings, but he was soon distracted and that was the end of it really.
I do try to be positive (see above), I always make sure that we get out and get some exercise every day as he is a bundle of energy, and he has just started karate in the hope that it will provide a physical outlet for his energy alongside a bit of self-discipline, but that's not going to be an instant solution.
I am just at a loss as to what to do - I'm constantly tired as neither sleep well, and I am struggling to stay calm when some of the things he does seem so deliberately spiteful and unkind. I feel like I am failing him and I can't work out whether he needs more discipline or just a different approach. He's home educated, so there's no school to work with.
Can Health Visitors still advise for this age group? Any help or ideas of who might be able to offer us some support would be much appreciated.
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Struggling with 5 year old
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DoJo · 28/10/2017 16:37
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