My dd was born prematurely at 28 weeks and has a number of health issues with regards to her lungs. She has very delayed developmental skill and has the ability age of a 2 year old. She has microcepaly which is to do with her head.
Basically she is starting to make me ill! All she does if hit and cry and fight screams (she had 2 brothers ages 5 and 3). She hardly ever laughes. She loves male attention.
She has a ehcp (educatal health and care plan for school).
For the last 2 years I have really started to dislike her (I know that is horrid but I can not help it)
Me and my husband are always arguing about the way she is. It seems to be one rule for her and another for the boys.
She will not let anyone sit by her dad only shes aloud (if I seat to close she will hit me and tell me "I hate you. Go away it's MY DADDY) and if her brothers sit near her dad she will go and find a hard toy and hit them with it. Her dad will not discipline her where I will and then get into an argument with her dad. She can not walk properly and has to have pedro boot (still waiting for them) she g9es to school everyday till 1 which is a pain in the ass running backwards and forwards 6 times a day as I have other 2 kids to take and pick up at different times. I'm fed up of the school telling me shes hit someone or she's can't talk well enough or she will not walk or she's head butted a teacher. She has now started telling teachers mummy hit me in the neck (where she had a rash off a woolly jumper )
She rubbed soap in her eyes when her dad bathed her. She went to school and told her teacher I did it. She fell over at the park and told the same teacher mummy punched me on my knee. I am sick to death of all these lies!
I try to walk her home from school to help her foot work out but all she does in run i to the road or fall over or walks into tress and bushes.
Meal times.. well every good dam meal time is a night mare. She won't eat unless she has a cup full and she wont eat unless she's drank a gallons worth. She will stuff her mouth with food and just swallow it and choke. I have to constantly tell her to use her folk and not her fingers. And constantly tell her to slow down and not to try to put so much in her gob.! Every meal times her brother will sit as far away as possible as she will pinch their food or drink and leave her own till last. Her brothers have even started to tell her to use her folk. (I fell so sorry for the boys to put up with it and listen to it everyday)
She rocks like a frog at night, hv said it was masturbation (disgusting ) and it is a pain in the ass if you tell her to stop rocking she will scream for hours! She picks things up off the floor if we're shopping or atbthe park or outside and she will put it in her mouth. We have 2 chickens and a rabbit and she will eat their POO!!!
I am sick of going backwards and forwards to hospital for appointment. At least 2 a week!
I'm fed up of not spreading any time with my boys cuz I'm always having to tell her to stop or be nice. Sometimes I won't play with the boys just so they don't get hit or bit!
She is still in nappies as she doesn't get any feelings yet (school complaining about her being in nappies. I have tried to potty train her for 2 years and fuk all works.)
I really want her to grow up fast. I have no bond with her. I've asked for help but no one will help till she's 5. I have be told I have depression. I get no help off her father (my husband) he pisses me off more cuz he will contradict me. If I say no he will say yes to her but not the boys.
She has broken 3 beds in 1 year don't ask me how I have no idea how. She has broken every toy I have brought her. She has broken her chest of draws. She's broken our 50inch tv. Broke some of the boys toys. She kicked our chick and rabbit.
The list goes on.......
I need help! We got no family to support us as we don't get on. School don't care as long as their getting paid. Doctors said nothing till she's 5.!
I am getting to the stage of just walking away from her for good... She's making everyone's life a misery. I no your all going to say she's 4 shes got a lot to learn yet blah blah blah. And that I'm a horrid mother. heard it all before
I just want to no will it get easier if not how can I make ot easier!
Anyone else got a kids like this.
I really feel sorry for my boys they dred ask if there dad for help or to play and she will scream until she's got all his attention. I can not stand her anymore. All I ever talk about it her all we do it her. I can't cope! Help me before I lose my mind judge me. Don't judge me. I could care anymore
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4 year old daughter with health problems and getting fed up with her behaviour!
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Ilovechocolate111 · 12/10/2017 14:03
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