Our son will be 3 in July, and there are several things we are worried about, first and foremost is lack of vocabulary and speech delay or willingness to speak unless copying a parent, I'd say he has between 20-30 words (at a push) and he will only speak a handful of these of his own accord - he is bilingual English is his first language and French his is second (we live in France). Other things that concern us include tip toe walking, selective hearing and at times coming across as utterly deaf, not always answering his name, sensory issues with food (although a very good eater) uncontrollable outbursts of anger, no longer seems to have the ability to follow directions, uncooperative during our daily routines - no longer wishing to walk to or from crèche, not wanting nappy changed, not wanting teeth brushed etc... seems to be in his own world, tunes people out, gets very engrossed in whatever he is doing and doesn't like to be interrupted from his task, can be a little obsessive, prefers to play alone (although the crèche have commented that he plays with others more and more frequently now), gets upset if we stray from the routine at all. Super clumsy. And only recently started pointing things out and waving goodbye etc
We have had his hearing checked by ORL surgeon and there's absolutely nothing wrong with his ears (although some concern over adenoids, which may need removed at a later date)
Now, we have been in touch with a child development specialist here and she has assessed him, at crèche on two occasions under various different scenarios in their day to day routine and today we received a phone call with a time and date for a meeting to go over her expert opinion - apparently lots to discuss! But the meeting isn't for three weeks and in all honesty my guts are twisting, deep down both his father and I know there is more to this than "the terrible twos" that people dismiss our concerns with.
We work closely with crèche staff and they have admitted that he is difficult and they also feel there is more to it, typically the French children are very laid back and rarely tantrum, but recently, for our son he has been finding life just really difficult and is tantruming more and more. Some of the staff feel it may be the two languages that have caused a set back and that the tantrums may be due to not being able to express himself with words which we have taken into consideration.
I just don't know what to think or how best to help him with his emotions. We try to give him a rounded life, we read with him every day, we give him a varied diet, he paints a lot, he loves to sit with our dog and pretend to read to her, we go outside for a walk every day, regardless of weather come rain or snow or shine, we explore new places, he loves interacting with animals, he sleeps impeccably, we try to give him fun new experiences as often as possible, he has a great crèche with wonderful children and the staff are incredibly attentive and he is a sweet, loving little boy aside from everything else. We just want to help him, but we don't know how.
Sorry, bit of a ramble, I just needed to get my worries off my chest, even if no one replies!
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Wildfox90 · 23/05/2017 17:43
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