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Child being aggressive towards DS

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AllFurCoatNoKnockers · 23/04/2017 22:31

Just looking for some advice on how to handle this.

A friend from NCT and I both have 14 month old boys, around 2 weeks difference between them. They've known and been around each other since they were days old but suddenly the other boys behaviour has changed.

Spent the day with them yesterday and the other child would push my DS to the floor, hold him down, grab handfuls of hair, run up to him and push him over and I was left with a really upset DS.

I don't want to come across as protective to the mother, but it definitely feels like some of the behaviour was malicious and the other little boy definitely knew what he was doing some of the time.

My DS was shell shocked, but after a few minutes would be toddling back over to him offering toys etc and being very friendly and was getting visibly confused when the other boy turned round and hurt him.

My friend and I are close, our DH's are also close and everyone was quite shocked by the behaviour. Developmentally they are the same, both running around and physically quite strong. Part of me thinks it's worth keeping them apart for a bit but I really don't want to be accused of being pfb.

Any ideas on how to handle this?

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user1491572121 · 24/04/2017 01:37

Is your friend stopping her son immediately when he does this?

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Atenco · 24/04/2017 02:52

What does the other child's mother do about this?

IMHO it is not being overprotective to protect such a small child from being treated like that.

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AllFurCoatNoKnockers · 24/04/2017 12:48

She will stop him, and I'll take my little boy out of the situation but my DS just wants to play again.

The other little boy will toddle over to my DS, blowing kisses when his mum asks him to apologise and then when he gets within reach will push him over or grab his hair.

She seems to realise that the behaviour is aggressive and will say something like "we don't do that to our friends" etc but he seems to get a rise out of the attention.

Because I haven't seen this sort of behaviour from a child so young, I'm not sure if there is anything I can do or say from my end apart from keep my DS away.

Glad it doesn't seem over protective of me, I think it's surprised me how upset I am by this. I suppose it's made me realise how vulnerable my little boy is.