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guidanceplease · 18/03/2017 11:30

Just took my son to sat rugby for the first time in ages. My husband has stopped taking him. When I first started it with him he loved it and was really good. Today he embarrassed me he deliberately threw balls away, ignored rules, tantrum / grumpy every 5 mins. I was constantly like tackle me let's try to get ball through goal etc (have no personal idea what I'm doing. He wanted leave early so we went out of room and down stairs. I looked behind me and couldn't see him so waited. Went back up and looked and down. Waited. 20 mins later get text from husband he's walked home without telling me. He's 6 yrs old. He has to cross two roads including one super busy. I have been crying because I was worried I'm angry cos he was so poorly behaved and because he left without me. I know when I get home my husband will shout at me as he does every time our children are badly behaved or upset with me he won't even ask me what happens he'll only ask them. My mother died I have no one to call wtf do I do. My children's behaviour especially with me is getting worse and worse. Anyone know a good place for parenting classes ?

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Pleasejustgetdressed · 18/03/2017 12:04

It sounds like your husband is the problem, not your son.

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Pleasejustgetdressed · 18/03/2017 12:27

It also sounds like you're doing your absolute best.

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ZilphasHatpin · 18/03/2017 12:31

Well first of all, do not ever tolerate another adult shouting at you! You are an adult. Your husband is your equal, not your parent or your manager. He is not the boss of the family. You deal with your son's behaviours. You don't report to your husband. If he starts talking to you like anything other than an equal parent then you walk away.

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Wolfiefan · 18/03/2017 12:31

Find one and send your husband. He shouldn't blame you if kids behave badly.
If kids behave badly there should be a consequence. Warning at first tantrum or ignoring rule. Then you go home.
Your six year old walked home alone?! I would be getting reins for the next trip out.

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guidanceplease · 19/03/2017 14:06

I'm slightly lost as I feel like I have no personal control on behaviour because I'm always undermined. Which leaves me anxious and frustrated. My husbands only comment was why had I left our son and was pretty scathing. I never left the premises to be clear I searched and cried and waited. I feel utterly hopeless. It was so dangerous we don't live in a quiet cul de sac.