I'd really appreciate any insight you might be able to offer me.
My DS is nearly 10. We've been having problems with him at school since he started in Reception.
It began at first with aggression towards his peers - hitting, kicking etc. Something he'd never displayed at home or nursery previously. Eventually he grew out of this physical aggression but now we are having other issues.
For the past 3 years the teachers during parents consultations have reported that he is very immature for his age - he doesn't respond appropriately to his environment - if he struggles with his work at school he will cry at the top of his voice, he gets very stressed with his work, his handwriting is awful (his 6 year old sisters is much better), he doesn't concentrate very well.
Socially he struggles too, he doesn't have friends - even friendships that I've manufactured for him (with my friends children) don't seem to work out - people become annoyed with him and irritated.
When he talks to anyone, he will dominate the conversation - going round in circles to make his point and talking louder than others to demand their attention. He doesn't recognise cues to stop - for example when my daughter fell over and hurt herself, he still didn't stop talking to allow me to help her.
He walks constantly on his tip toes - he can walk on his feet properly if we prompt him, but within a few steps, he forgets and goes back to his toes.
He still cannot ride a bike without stabilisers, he can't swim despite having lessons, and can't use his heelies - although he's owned them over a year (and his sister has mastered them).
He is very fearful of things - won't climb up high on a climbing frame etc.
He attends Cubs outside of school and seems to do well in that, but can attention seek quite a bit. Also, he's an alter boy at Church which requires him to do the exact same thing each week - almost by rote. But yet, he still needs prompting to do them.
He was bullied quite badly at school by some of the boys in his class although it's hard to know if this is as a response to his behaviour. He recently has been very innappropriate at school telling a girl to "take all her clothes off and take a picture." He swore that it was a joke, but he didn't really understand why it was innappropriate in the first place.
Not sure if it's relevant but he's very short for his age - shorter than all the children both in his class and the class below him.
Any ideas? Is there a reason for this? Is it a behavioural disorder, a processing disorder or am I just approaching it all wrong?
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cathpalmer · 13/03/2017 19:28
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