(4 years old) DS's speech development and his behaviour mostly equal to that of some other 2.5 years old children. I've been researching for all possible reasons and rule out of them one by one if not matching. So far, we are 100% sure he's not ASD or autistic. I sort of suspect he might be ADHD and might also have auditory processing disorder.
DH did not believe that DS is really behind of his peers, until he saw some other 2.5-4 years old children. He started talking to friends that how hard for parents to see their child far behind in terms of behaviour and maturity.
When I talk about behind, meaning the way he behaves really not like a normal 4 years old. He can't rarely engage in conversation and he still loves to run/jump up and down like without a brain. The contents of his talk are also very 2 years old play and no way to reach the logical and consistent level of his peers.
But he's not a typical child. He's a dreamer. He doesn't like to play toys in their conventional way and he always invents his own way to have fun with them. He plays really well on his own as he can with no exception always keep himself busy and entertained. 95% time, he's a very happy kid. He doesn't like to follow rules, but he has a soft heart and he likes to make friends but not all the kids want to take him as friend due to his speech delay. The comments we got from other people outside the family are mostly about "He's such a good boy (does what you tell him to do)" "He's always very well behaved.". Certainly, not always, but in general he's very easy going.
We are still trying to find ways to help him (like the speech therapy and probably will try some therapy aiming at APD too). But we just aren't sure if he will carry on to be behind or ever progress to a reasonable level of maturity. We've heard some teacher/specialist implied "Children like this (delayed development) might always have some level of difficulty in their whole life" and "always still need some extra support (learning difficulty)."
I've been begging DH to have a second child. DH today said he's not sure if my DS would ever be "normal" or his "wishful" thinking that this is just a phase could be true.
Sorry for my long whining words here. Could any of you could provide some reassurance with your experience that if no major reason is found, development delay could be just a phase. Or they will never be shaken off and even block their progress altogether one day...
Feeling really sad for DS...
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Some reassurance please? - 4 yrs old, development delay, no major cause found
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2017morework · 29/01/2017 20:35
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