Need help

[Stanyer21]

I'm literally round the bend with my 18 month old as he is never happy. He's always screaming and it's just making me really miserable. He is only ever happy if we are in the house other than that he screams constantly and there is no calming him down. He has been a distressed baby from birth and I just don't know what to do anymore. We were told he had silent reflux so he has medication for that and he is on a dairy free diet. Sometimes I wonder if there is anything the matter with him or if he just screams for nothing like. He doesn't sleep either never has and I have tried everything . He goes down OK but then wakes up all through the night crying :( he just doesn't seem to like anything

[Coconut0il]

I would speak to your GP or HV. When you say he's happy in the house do you mean calm and relaxed?
My DS2 has always been a bit grumpy. Cries in the car seat, pushchair, high chair but he's usually ok once we're out and he's enjoying something like soft play, baby group. He just doesn't like to be restrained.
Constant screaming would worry me and I would be looking for advice.

[Stanyer21]

I am under a paeditrician for his reflux dietician and speech and language team. I have rang the health visitors but don't seem to get any were and when I go to the doctor they just refer me to a paeditrician. Yeah in the house he is calm and relaxed which is the only time he is.

[Stanyer21]

The speech and language team mentioned it could be a sensory disorder as he is hates being at groups. I took him to butlins for 3 days after Xmas and he was a nightmare we were back in the room constantly as he hated the noise. I just don't know what to do for the best anymore and if I should just be letting him cry especially through the night

[Cantchooseaname]

If he has sensory processing issues an OT can help.
If you feel it is sound, can you make push chair a 'haven'- big pushchair, hood always on to reduce visual input, wear ear defenders/ head phones.
Does he like a cartoon / video on iPad? Can he watch that in pushchair?
Maybe keep outings really short initially- can you manage 3 mins round block? Build up from there as he becomes comfortable.
Some kids I know with sensory issues- the anxiety that they might encounter a triggering sound/ stimulus overrides everything. As soon as it is possiblity the 'fight/ flight' takes over.
Can you push gp to get proper assessment? It sounds like he is struggling. However the right interventions can make all the difference.

[Coconut0il]

That sounds really tough stanyer. I would start making a diary of where/when it happens and start looking for any possible triggers. This will also help as evidence if you need to tell someone about it later. Also follow the advice above and try to block out as much of what's distressing him as possible.
When he wakes at night is it just normal crying or screaming? DS2 cries if he wakes and I still feed him back to sleep.