dd2 is 8, just started year 4. She is youngest of 3. Bright, does well at school, articulate, sociable.
But there are one or two things in her behaviour which are really starting to worry my and we have had a few incidents in the last few weeks that have highlighted them.
She doesn't seem to have any awareness of danger. She keeps making bad choices which at times could be dangerous. She will happily go up to and chat with ANYBODY, at any time, with no sense of stranger awareness. She will be very sensible crossing roads etc and then run out across the road becuase she is cross/upset.
She is also at the moment having loads of melt downs. Usually over minor things, and when she is angry she will lash out at older sister and kick/hit even bite because she is cross. When she is having a melt down, she is like a toddler, with no stop button. She has no natural self restraint.
She finds chnage and transition difficult and always has, she has a minor medical condition that is worse when stressed and every year it is bad through August and gets worse until the first day of term, then it disappears. That was true again this year, despite her new teacher being one she has had before.
There have been a few changes lately and I am sure that has contributed to her being worse, dd1 has left the school to go to secondary. There have been a few changes to routine as we adjust to 2 in secondary. Dad has been away for work for a week, and has just left for a further 2 weeks. but. I don't know, it just feels like something doesn't add up with her.
Sometimes her empathy is good, but she does some stuff which shows a real lack of understanding of others. The main one is that she pinches stuff from her siblings rooms, and when caught doesn't really understand why they are so upset.
Needless to say there are always consequences to her behaviour, and we are consistent and fair, but to be honest, she doesn't care about the consequences for more than a few minutes, and sometimes just cannot see why the consequence is fair. eg, she took a toy from dd1, so I allowed dd1 to remove a toy from dd2's bedroom. dd2 couldn't understand why that was fair - but she might take my favourite toy! When I asked if dd1 had had any choice about the toy she lost, dd2 still didn't get it. When I said that dd1 was just as upset as she was, she couldn't see the link.
Perhaps it would be more true to say she coudl see the link, but couldn't see why I would apply it, because she would be upset.
Sorry, long and rambling, don't know what I'm asking really
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any wise advice re dd2 and her behaviour??
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steppemum · 30/09/2016 15:22
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