Hi, new here and not sure where to post this. My son is 10, in p7, and due to go on a 4 day residential trip with the school (not until march 2017 but have to sign up now). He is refusing to go. He has been adamant for over 2 years that he wouldn't go when he got to p7. He is very particular about things like sleeping in a room on his own and he doesn't like trying new things, especially sport/outdoor activities. He also doesn't want to be away from home. I've tried in the past to encourage him to do things when he feels this way, because there are times when he ends up enjoying them, and I don't want him to limit himself and miss out on experiences which would help him feel more confident. However, I have also seen how anxious and upset he can get, to the point where he shuts down and it feels its doing more hard than good. I'm a single parent and he and I spend most of our time alone, which I am sure plays a part in this. His very sensitive temperament and tendency to be rigid in his thinking also plays a part. We have had issues at school in the last two years and they are not very responsive to this. They think I need to be firmer and just tell him he has to do things. I'm looking for some advice. Part of me wants to let it go and just say this is not for him at this time, but I know I'm going to face enquiries from the school and its very hard to feel ok about it when everyone else is going and happily ready to take a trip like this. At the end of the day I'd never force him, but I wonder if there's anyway I can help him feel differently about it. I'd love to hear if anyone else has similar experience or has any thoughts to offer? Thank you :)
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