Hi all
I have two sons DS8 and DS9. They are lively and bright, go to a lovely school and on the whole are pretty happy. However, when having to attend family or friends events, there can be real attitude: they turn into creatures from the deep, show no interest in others, can be rude by dismissing what people (who definitely know better) say, in general show off.
There was such an example yesterday when we were visiting an elderly aunt and their behaviour was horrible, it was arrogant and dismissive to people who were trying to engage and talk to them. I was furious and embarrassed. On the drive home last night, they had a 45 rollocking from both DH and me to explain why we were seriously unhappy with their behaviour, not good enough, 'very disappointed' etc and they went to bed early with no TV.
Is this a 'boys will be boys' thing or an attention grabbing thing (both DH and I work full time)? There is also an element of shyness underneath some of it. Is this a phase they go through before they stop speaking to us during adolescence? Or do I pack them off to the nearest boarding school to be taught some manners.
I wouldn't say I'm at my wits end - more like, I'm interested in what tactics people have used to teach their kids how to show an interest when in more adult type situations, even if they're not. We can threaten them to remove computer/TV time etc, but I wondered whether there was a more constructive way e.g. more regular visits to elderly aunts etc to teach the lesson.
Mellymell
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Teaching manners to pre-teens
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mellymell · 13/06/2016 10:21
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