It seems to be on a very cunning level. I have only just pieced it together.
- DS tell DD his playdate will beat her up, is overheard and told his friend will not be allowed to come then, so he says he will not tell his friend to do that, the friend is allowed to come and everyone plays peacefully. A few days later, DS's friend hits and pinches DD at school.
- Misbehaving in the car is not allowed and they know they will get let out to walk (has not had to happen yet). While am out of car to open back doors when pulled up at home, DS spits in DD's face.
DD says she is a little bit afraid of DS, will not retaliate as it will escalate, just takes it.
How do I deal with DS and how do I get DD to stand up to him?
TIA