Sorry, this will probably be long.
DS turned three at the end of January and moved up to the Preschool room within his nursery the following week. He's been in that nursery since 11 months old.
Since then his behavior has been rapidly deteriorating. A staff member has to report an incident to me every time I pick him up, now - everything from biting other children, snatching toys, intentionally tripping over children and adults and refusing to join in (especially with tidying up). When he left the toddler room his key worker said how much she would miss him, how lovely he was, how much the other children looked up to him and so on, so this has been quite a dramatic turn around.
At around the same time as he turned 3 / moved up, I started suffering from hyperemesis and ended up being signed off work for a month. I could do very little for DS for that time, and he spent a lot of time being cared for by grandparents. Sleepovers with grandparents have been happening for a long time, but not as frequently as he had for that month. I don't know how much this has unsettled him.
Just to add even more complication, our lovely dog died a week before DS' birthday. He was very young and it was obviously upsetting. I don't know how much it has effected DS - we've not had any tears etc directly related to losing DDog, but DS does still ask when he'll come home. When we look at other dogs (we will get another as our remaining dog is not coping alone), DS gets a bit upset and says he doesn't want another dog, just our DDog back. So this might be playing a part, too.
At home, his behavior is certainly not as good as it has been (he was a dream throughout the "terrible twos"), but nothing like as bad as it seems to be at nursery. We're seeing a lot of tantrums, but no biting / hitting etc.
I have been asked to go into nursery to "discuss the situation" tomorrow. I need to prepare a bit, I think. I've had a couple of chats with DS about nursery, does he have fun etc. He says it's "yucky" and that the two main adults in the room shout a lot. He has mentioned one other child who I know cries a lot, DS says he doesn't like that.
Thank you if you managed to get through all of that! I think, what I'm asking is:
- What can I / should I talk about with DS?
- What can I suggest to nursery?
- What can I realistically expect nursery to do?
And if anybody has any ideas / suggestions I'm willing to try anything!