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par for the course 3-4yr old?

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MrsDeathOfRats · 28/12/2015 13:04

My dd is 3.5. She has a really makes me want to rip my head off annoying habit. I just wondered if it's normal or not.

Dd 'mummy can I have more crisps please'
Me: 'no sweetheart the bag is finished'
Dd 'no I mean the round ones. Can I have more of those please'
Me: 'no sweetheart. You had the last ones so the bag is finished'
Dd: 'NO! I MEAN the round ones. Not the ball ones'
Me: 'I know what you mean. But the bag is finished. The bag of round ones and ball ones are finished'
Dd: 'I MEAN...'

It goes on until I start to get annoyed and snap something like 'I know exactly what you mean but They. Are. All. Finished. O.K???'

And then she will go 'OK mummy' and that's that.
It's this endless 'i mean' and the assumption that cos I didn't immediately say yes then I clearly don't understand what she meant!!

Drives me fucking nuts

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MrsDeathOfRats · 28/12/2015 14:11

Anyone els experience anything like this?

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horseygeorgie · 28/12/2015 14:19

completely normal in our house too! DD is convinced I am just not grasping her concept and they couldn't possibly be all finished. She has out grown it thank God!

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MyFriendsCallMeOh · 28/12/2015 14:21

I remember this phase well..... Drove me insane.

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Seeyounearertime · 28/12/2015 14:29

My DD does this and she's only 2.6yo. She's an advance annoyer in a lot of ways.

"Can I watch a DVD daddy?"
"Course you can, what do you want on?"
"Peppa pig"
Daddy puts peppa DVD on,
"Not that one daddy I want the Alexander peppa"
Daddy changes DVDs to the Alexander episode,
"Not that one daddy I want the Alexander one"
"This is the the Alexander one"
"It's not daddy"
30 episodes later we find the one she means and Alexander isn't even mentioned in it ffs.

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MsJuniper · 28/12/2015 14:30

Have you tried repeating back exactly what she says? I have been doing this for tantrums after reading it as a tip on here and it works a treat, might work in this instance too? It seems to make DS feel that I'm listening more than if I answer his question straight.

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MrsDeathOfRats · 28/12/2015 15:23

Thank god it's not just me!!

I have done the repeating thing before but she gets extremely upset and confused.