Night time issues with 3.5yr old

[feekerry]

Dd is 3.5 yrs. over the last 6 weeks have had some real night time/ anxiety issues. Mainly around the toilet and wanting to come into our bed. It initially started with one or two bad dreams in a row where she would get up and run thru to our room saying she was frightened. She had never done this before so she came into our bed. On the 3rd or 4th occasion she just started getting out of bed and coming thru and refusing to go back. Full on screaming when we put her back. We battled it out one night and 9 times she got out and was up screaming for hours. We then progressed to sanctions such as no more sleep overs at nans etc if you keep getting up. She has now progressed to wetting the bed. On purpose. She says she is frightened of going for a wee. We leave the lights on and said she can shout for us to take her but she refuses and just does it in her bed. Sometimes twice a night. Tonight she had a total breakdown as said she wanted a nappy on?! I had her checked for a uti which was neg. she has no toilet issues in the day.
When questioned about it all she says things like she doesn't want to go to sleep on her own (she shares with her brother so she isn't alone!) says things like mummy and daddy share a bed so I'm not sleeping on my own. Says she can't sleep without a nappy and gets really funny about it. I tired putting a nappy on her and she took it off in the morning and wet the bed!
She has never ever done anything like this tho she has always been clingy. Her speech is excellent and she comes across really irrational about this.
I'm not sure what to do or why she is being like this! Please help!

[blushingmare]

Ho. No real help I'm afraid, but just wanted to say that my DD, same age, is going through real nighttime anxiety at the moment too. She can't get to sleep unless I sit with her, holding her hand and she's often waking at night quite upset. She's never been like this before. She's also a bit anxious citing the day - especially about me leaving - ie. going to work, going out for an evening out etc.

No idea why or what to do about it, but just hope it's a phase that will pass!

[backtowork2015]

Instead of leaving the light on, which may make her more awake can you use thise plug in night lights. My dd has 2 which just illuminate the room a little. She also has a chair potty in her room as the bathroom is on another floor. We had some night time problems after ds was born. Have you had any big changes? We used the reward chart, don't know if it really helped or if it was just time passing. It is really hard when you're exhausted but try not to get cross at night time, it just keeps them awake longer

[feekerry]

She already has 2 peppa pig night lights and ds has 1 so 3 in total. She also has a star thing she can put on which plays a song and I often her that go off throughout the night.
This morning I heard her get up for a wee and I thought great! When I got her up this morning 40 mins later (when her sun comes up) she had also wet the bed!
I think I might just put her back in dry night pants till this is over.
No major changes in our lives. She has been obsessed with reading little red riding hood and I don't think this has helped as at first she used to run thru saying she had a bad dream about the wolf!