Hi everyone. I'm having a really dark moment right now and feel desperate. I have 2 boys: a13 year old (John) and a10 year old (Sam). My younger son's behavior towards me and his brother is terrible most of the time. He has a bedwetting problem and we checked all the physical possibilities and he is fine. So we're seeing a psychiatrist weekly and he's on medication. The doctor says this problem may be the reason behind his behavior. We don't punish him or anything when he wets himself, we tell him lots of boys are like that and he will get better.
He is an A student and he controls his temper and is polite with everyone outside home, but he is hiding many anxieties (the dark, doctors, stray dogs, being alone, getting sick, hygiene ) and he kinds of lets it all out at home. When he's upset he calls me really bad names and hits me but he soon apologizes because he needs A LOT of hugs and kisses throughout the day.
As for his brother he openly says that he hates him. He cannot stand that his brother touch him or touch his stuff. He's says his brother is not clean (which isn't the case) and arrogant and ...etc. It's worth saying that his older brother is popular- handsome -athletic, but then, he is too! Sometimes, no matter how many times I've told him not to, John teases him that he can do something that he can't, or he would just ignore him when he talking to him because he's busy with something. What Sam does then is hit and insult John. A few minutes later he calls him to play with him or help him with something!
He makes me mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted. He talks a lot at home and is always moving around, jumping all over me, forcibly hugging and kissing me.
I'll tell you an example from today:
Sam had football practice today.He wasnt wearing the team outfit because he planned on buying a new one before practice. He called me a while after saying that the money he had wasnt enough. I told him he could play with what he had on and just buy the clothes next time. He started crying and calling me names. I asked him what he wanted me to do . He didn't have an answer and kept calling me names so I just told him to call me when he was ready to come home and hung up. He called me about 20 times after that. I mostly closed the call. When I answered he just said more insults. When I wouldn't answer he started texting me the insults. If he had been at home he would surely be hitting me. I texted him back: May God forgive you and guide you to the right path my beloved son. (I'm not always this calm). He sent me another insulting text. Half an hour later he texted me that he was ready to come home and that he was very very sorry and that Ihe knows I didn't do anything wrong!
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Need help with 10 year old difficult boy!
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Didi1978 · 07/11/2015 20:06
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