My 4 yr old son started school this Sept at the local school. There are 18 children in the class and 16 of them went to playgroup together. My son did not and I'm unsure if this is affecting him.
He is a really well behaved, kind, polite child at home. At school there is a current run of events that are being described to me in a very negative way.
At the first parent - teacher meeting it was highlighted to me that my son was growling and expressing his anger in this manner which we both agreed to work on with him. I had believed that had stopped.
Last week he had 3 separate incidents in one day.
He hit a girl in the face at dinner, "head butted" a child while gathering their coats and pushed someone else. I couldn't believe it was my child as I can't see my son hitting someone without a reason. From the descriptions I'm getting from school especially 'head butting' another child it makes me wonder what kind of child is he being it's the complete opposite to who he is at home. I also wonder what's happening to him before he does these things.
I found out from my son later that day at an unrelated time that he had been pushed over in the playground by a P2 boy and was crying and the teachers weren't there. I explained this to the teacher and she said she'd look into it but I got the impression that she didn't believe it as the teachers would have seen it.
In an attempt to help him with his behaviour and not to hit, push or hurt another child I had asked the teacher if she would be happy to give my child a smiley face/sad face card home every day in his school bag so I could place these at home and reward him if he successfully got 5 happy faces. She was happy to do so and he got 3 brilliant faces and was going to get a lovely reward at the end of the week.
Unfortunately today I was asked for a quick word with the teacher and told by her that my child had bitten another boy on the penis. I couldn't believe it!! I can't see him do it let alone any child!! She told me that the boy checked himself and there were no marks. I was so shocked and surprised that I didn't question the teacher what exactly happend. Now having time to think about it and also after asking my child what happened things seem to be blown out of proportion.
My child said he was playing with a girl pretending to be a dog and chasing her and this boy joined in and guarded her. My son said he bit him on the t-shirt at his tummy. So what really happened is anyone's guess. I do believe my son as he doesn't lie to me.
I'm so close to tears as I'm unsure what to do short of being in his school to keep an eye on him. I'm also scared my child will get labeled in school as a bully or something and that will ruin the next 6 1/2 yrs of his school life.
Sorry it's a long rant!
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Jekyll and Hyde 4yr old school problems
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dawnmoo · 30/11/2006 23:23
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