The last few weeks/months(?) have been tough with our 3.5 yr old son. He has never been a particularly easy child but the latest behaviours are hard to take. If he doesn't get his way (and I make a point of making sure he doesn't always get his way!) he spits, hits, refuses to leave, etc. Sometimes says really nasty violent things to us. I've got the book 'raising your spirited child' and he definitely fits most of the descriptions in the intro...I'm yet to read much further) I think he is permanently tired and his behaviour is definitely worse when he's tired but he rarely goes to sleep before 8/8:30 and is woken most mornings by our 15 month old at 6am sharp. We have a small flat so it's difficult to stop him being woken by our v noisy little one. He still naps at lunchtime (he is hideous if he doesn't) but I have never managed to get him to nap at home so it is always in the car (and yes, I go out in the car solely for that reason if I have to!)
We're a pretty laid back couple and our household is nearly always calm - we don't shout at each other and never used to shout at the children, though that is changing with sheer frustration (and tiredness). I've been told by many people that I'm v patient - I'm now wondering if I've been too patient with him??! We're not precious about our belongings and I'm quite up for kids being allowed to be creative rather than putting too many restrictions on them - but now I think we're wondering if we've not implemented enough 'rules'.
My closest friends with children have girls who sit down and do colouring in so I frequently feel like we are getting it wrong (and remind myself these are boys here and I shouldn't expect nice calm activities)
Finding it tricky to know how to entertain them now. I'm home 3 days a week with them and try to be out of the flat as often as possible but when indoors, DS just wants to run around the flat, pick up kitchen utensils/other random items that he shouldn't be playing with, hit things with sticks if at all possible or dress up as superheroes. Happy to get stuck in with my boy now and then but finding it difficult to do all blooming day long! argh!
I suppose I'm just after some 'me toos' so I don't feel completely inept at this parenting thing. And if anyone has lived through 3.5yr old boy behaviour and come out the other side...please reassure me that it gets easier!!!
Sorry long post - many thanks for reading!
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3 1/2 year old spirited boy behaviour......arghgghgghghgh
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thegasmanswife · 25/07/2015 20:11
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