Please can someone help me? I am 35 weeks pregnant and ds1 (age 2.6yo) has suddenly become insanely clingy.
He usually settles really well at bedtime and made the transition into a Big Boy Bed a couple of months ago with no worries at all.
But now he screams and cries hysterically when I try to leave the room when he is in bed. We have a nice calm bedtime routine which we have had for 2 years - stories, teeth, drink and a big cuddle and into bed. I stroke his face tell him how much I love him and then used to just be able to walk out the room and he chatted or fell straight asleep.
Now: total meltdown. And the only person who can settle him (and then be allowed to leave the room) is DH. If it's me, we have full on hysterics every time I try to leave the room.
It's the same when I drop him off at nursery in the morning. Heart wrenching screaming and reaching out for me from the arms of his key worker (he is always fine within 5-10 mins as I call up to check and cannot hear him crying in the background. And he IS very happy there and has a lovely day which he tells me all about).
I am feeling very hormonal and upset about all this - can't see how DH will ever be able to go out in the evening as I am now clearly incapable of settling him for bed and my presence seems to make everything worse :-( :-(
Could this be related to the baby coming soon? We have read lots of stories about the baby brother in my tummy and talk about it with him lots. He deffo understands what's happening as friends have had babies recently. But could there be some deep anxiety making him behave like this? He is also talking in baby talk a lot at the moment (even though his language is very good) and wants to role play being a baby with me, sitting in my lap sideways like a baby. Wants me to pretend to give him a bottle etc.
What should I do?? Especially at bedtimes - I have SPD and cannot sit on his bedroom floor beside his bed whilst he falls asleep (and really don't wanna be falling into new sleep issues with him just before a newborn arrives....DS has always slept well from about 6 months onwards and this is a big shock).
Please can someone reassure me this will sort itself out? Wwyd about bedtimes? Just let DH handle it? I miss my happy little boy :-( :-(
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2.6yo suddenly extremely clingy - 35 weeks pregnant - is this related!?
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BotBotticelli · 15/06/2015 19:57
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