A bit of background - DD is 3.2, and an only child. I am a single mum. DD has a nanny 2.5 days a week, and a few evenings per month. She goes to nursery 2 mornings a week, and is in a class with 14 other children. I am with her the rest of the time.
I've just said goodbye to old friends who came to visit from another city. They didn't stay here at the flat, due to lack of space, but were with us for much of the last 3 days. DD was fine (even delightful!) when attention was focused on her, but an absolute nightmare whenever we tried to have adult conversation. Constant interruptions, constant requests, constant demands at increasing intensity and volume...... I didn't lose my rag, but feel completely exhausted from the effort of being pulled in all directions. I patiently told her "mummy is talking now", or "you need to wait a few minutes as mummy is busy at the moment". But, she'd be back again in no time at all. I even resorted to putting a video on in the lounge hoping we could have some time to ourselves in the kitchen - but with little relief.
I know children want what they want at 3, and have no problems expressing themselves. But, at what point can they be expected to control their impulses, and fit in to a situation without being the centre of attention? Did I expect too much of her? Do they get more frantic for attention when they realise you aren't available to them exclusively? She's generally very well behaved, but I felt I experienced some serious boundary testing this weekend. I wonder if I could have handled it differently/better so that it was more relaxed for both of us.
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Earlybird · 03/05/2004 03:52
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