"What's normal?" is a stupid question, I know. But I'm worried for my little one who is very clingy. Should I push her/ help her learn to be less clingy?
She's 15 months old and she refuses to be held by anyone but me, my husband or her older step-sister. She breastfeeds every night til she's asleep then feeds during the night and is upset if I'm not there when she wakes up. We don't even bother trying to put her in the cot anymore. She likes to breast feed during the day too, which some people are starting to make comments about... We have lots of friends and a busy mum and baby social life so she's comfortable being around other people and loves other kids so long as I'm nearby and no one else tries to pick her up...
Instinctively, I couldn't care less if she clings to me for another few years. I've been made redundant, had an ok pay-off so I'm lucky enough to be able to stay with her for as long as we want. She's also made steps forward in her own time in other areas and I think she might do too with her clinginess and sleep habits... I think controlled crying is the equivalent of "breaking" her and I don't want to "break" her spirit! We didn't plan to parent like this, it just happened and we seem to have inadvertently been practising attachment parenting, which is fine by me because we have a happy, contented little girl.
But...
...other people seem to be able to leave their babies with baby sitters, at nursery, with relatives etc and I'm wondering if I should push my little one to manage in those situations too? And it feels like everyone else her age (and younger!) can sleep through the night in their own room. And it would be nice for husband and me to have an evening out eventually... or even just an uninterrupted few hours at home together. And it's really upsetting for grandparents and others who want to cuddle her... And I don't want to hold her back developmentally...
Thoughts, anyone? Advice? Please!
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Clingy toddler - what's normal?
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NooNooMummy · 22/01/2015 12:51
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