We've recently moved home, about 8 weeks ago. It was very unexpected and everything had to be handled within a matter of five days. Our new home is lovely and my daughter has a lovely new room and the area is busier but much better with lots of things catering to her age group. But, it has been very hard on her. The quick move also meant moving away from my mum and sibling who used to live 15 mins min away and who we would see weekly, sometimes every other day. They are very close with my daughter. She has also started a new nursery and then had to change in the first week to another nursery because of things I didn't think were good about the first. She has been attending the second new nursery for two days. On Friday she told me that she wants to go home and I tried to explain that this is our new home, she didn't seem happy. Her entire routine has been turned upside down and she has been sleeping at random times and acting out a lot. I was hoping to start her off with full time hours at nursery from Monday because she is so frustrated when she is at home with me and I am having some health problems that means I cannot be as interactive as I would like with her. I was hoping it would help settle her into a new routine too and just generally make her feel happier about the move. She breastfed till she was two and a half and after nine months of being weaned off has been trying to breastfeed again and demanding it every day.
Today I picked her up and she was grumpy and tired anyway but she ended up having a half an hour meltdown in the middle of the street at a busy junction. She was throwing herself around so much in her pushchair that it became dangerous to keep on walking down the road. It was so bad that someone stopped to ask me if she was alright because they assumed she might be ill. I could not control the situation at all and it was very overwhelming. I have never seen anything like it in terms of tantrums and she has never had one like it before. She has been acting out so much over the last few weeks and can throw a hell of a tantrum but this was incredible even for her. At one point in the tantrum she pulled me by the hand towards a shop doorway that had a front area with a light above like an open porch. I let her guide me there because after half an hour of the tantrum she seemed to become fixated on going toward the shop and I was desperate to get her to calm down.
When we got there she just stood with me under the porch area and calmed down. After a couple of minutes she reached towards me for comfort so I knelt down and gave her a hug. She climbed on me in a fetal position as I was down on one knee and curved herself into me to sleep. We stayed like that for a couple of minutes before I stood up with her and told her to lean on my shoulder and she slept. As she was sleeping she started to act distressed in her sleep and I had to continue to comfort her for a bit longer. She has had bad dreams before but this was very different.
I have tried to be positive with her about the move as this is a good thing for us and I want her to be happy but now I'm at a loss as to handle this. I need advice on how to make her happier and not so stressed about moving home. She clearly needs more comfort and support but I'm not sure what else I can do at this point. I have set up her new room in a lovely way and take her for walks around the area. She gets a lot of love and attention so I'm wondering if there are other things I could do that I haven't done already.
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Please help me understand my toddlers meltdown today. I feel like sobbing.
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mummymummypony · 14/01/2015 19:10
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