I desperately need advice. Background- we are a splitting up family after years of mostly verbal and behavioural abuse from H (sometimes physical) Mainly to me but also to kids at times. Since splitting H has been unabusive with kids and much sbetter with them. He had a wake up call it seems. He is still bitter and ranting and name calling towards me fairly regularly in front of kids.
This obviously explains why son is acting up. I feel for him, I love him but I must deal with these occasional terrible outbursts ( think worst adult swear words aimed repeatedly at me in screams plus throwing things at me). I must resolve this and show him that there are consequences so that he doesn't carry this further on in life. Also I need him to continue to feel loved unconditionally. And also that while behaviour is never acceptable, I understand the turmoil it arose from and sympathise.
That's what I want to do. I feel completely inadequate right now. Could you help me with how to deal with these episodes while being strong, firm, effective but always loving and secure for him ? Advice desperately needed. thank you!
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10 yo son having occasional outbursts of extreme behaviour
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BreatheandFlyAway · 29/12/2014 13:15
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