My 4 yo DD seems to be away with the fairies all the time. 15 minutes for a quick toilet stop, 1 hour to eat her supper, half an hour to get dressed. She has always been like this, so I suppose I thought it was normal or at least her personality. She is also very bossy and will still tantrum for very minor 'infractions', e.g. asking her if she is finished when using the toilet, cutting her sandwich, getting the 'wrong' clothes for her to wear. If I let her choose she would go to school in either a swimming costume or a princess dress.
She is also constantly acting out different roles, usually fantasy ones like Elsa from Frozen or Mowgli from the jungle book and at times refuses to answer to her name because she isn't alteredDD.
So I thought this was just her being headstrong or a control issue but I was called into her school last month because she is apparently the same at school, minus the tantrums. She is very calm and compliant but just never finishes anything, even her food,and is missing out on doing a lot of work as a result. Sometimes she misses playtime entirely.
Any ideas what this could be about? I don't think she is bored, she happily writes her name and new words at home and sings songs she learned at school. I did a similar thing when I started school but only maths because I hated drawing the venn diagrams I had to do.
I have considered some sort of ASD as she goes non verbal when upset and just screams and kicks and also because she finds it very difficult to initiate play with her peers. The complete investment in fantasy worlds also makes me wonder.
Sorry for the massive post, but has anyone else had something similar?
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4 yo taking forever to do anything
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alteredimages · 09/12/2014 09:08
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