DS1 is just 4. He's quite a dramatic child - full of humour, good at identifying and imitating characteristics and tones, loves movies, and had a good grasp of a fairly wide range of human emotion (feeling it, playing it and responding to it). He's a big fan of Frozen (natch) an plays at being Elsa a lot. Today when I was wiping his face before bed I told him he was beautiful. He said he wishes he was a girl (not the first time he's said it) and when I asked why said it Was because then he'd be beautiful. I said 'you are beautiful' and said that he doesn't think he is.
For context, He's said he wants to he a girl before, and that he wants to wear dresses, have long hair - generally wanting the 'girl' things. I've thought in the past either that it's the usual stuff kids say before they have 'gender-types' battered into them, or that he may be on the more camp end of the spectrum.
I think I'm asking whether it's a fairly normal / standard / usual developmental stage, or whether it might be symptomatic of something else. My only wish is that he's happy, and my worry about his statement is that it's indicative that he may not be happy in himself.
Or do high drama 4yo say that sort of shit all the time? Is it just a growing awareness of self and difference and sameness? What do you think? My mum would have been wise counsel but she isn't here any more
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Is this a 'usual' statement from a 4yo boy?
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BusyCee · 06/12/2014 22:33
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