My DS9 started Middle School in September (they do this from Year 5 where I live). Anyway, I had concerns about behaviour at the start of year, in fact I have concerns about behaviour all the time, but for the sake of this post, we will focus on start of year. He regularly hits other children - and by regularly I mean 2 or 3 times throughout the academic year, and only once or twice at home - and it has happened again. He is currently waiting for a re-referral to a paediatrician, who wanted to see him back if his behaviour hadn't improved. The problem is, I no longer know how to deal with it. All other things have failed, and this time, I wonder if a 'school has dealt with it, I've told him off, very loudly, and he cried at my disapproval, leave it at that' approach. Previously, he has had privileges removed, been grounded, not allowed to play out etc. Trying to find his Achilles heel is hard. As my OH says, he just doesn't seem to care. But in DS's eyes, his behaviour is justified. On this occasion, the victim was calling him Sonic, which he didn't like. I re-iterated the fact that there is nothing that justifies hitting another person (obviously, life in danger yes, but that is about it!).
I need to figure this out. I cannot cope with this behaviour any more. And before you ask, no, there is absolutely no violence in this house. DS had his bum smacked once as a toddler for running into the road, and that is it! I don't hit OH, he doesn't hit me, we don't watch any violence on the telly, nothing, no reason that I can see that he would think violence was acceptable.
Please, someone, tell me what I should do! I really have no idea any more!
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Same sh*t different school
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ItIsNoneOfYourBusiness · 05/12/2014 16:48
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