Okay, this may not sound like a big deal- but it is driving me loopy. My DS- 4 years old- simply cannot stand to lose. We have just come home from another party, and again, I have had to stand there and explain to him about why he can't win every single party game. All the other children were gracious that they had been 'moving' in musical statues, and had to join the judging panel. Not my son; he stamps his feet, pouts, crosses his arms and sobs very loudly and dramatically. I was mortified. Again. This happens near on every party.
I've changed my username- as many of my 'mum'-friends are probably also on MN, and I am sure we now stick out like a sore thumb on this issue.
At the party, I reiterated to him that the behaviour isn't acceptable, and that it makes him look silly, but also that it makes the actual winners feel sad. He then refused to join in the next round, and the idiot that I am had to dance with him just to get him to join in (and stop sulking in the corner). When we got home, I made him take a star off his chart.
He is usually bright, and engaging, and funny- but incredibly headstrong! His teachers at preschool say he is a popular little boy. Another described him as 'astute' (whatever that may mean in a small child!!). But, with the bright lights of big school beckoning in September, I don't want him to have to learn the hard way that being mellow-dramatic over losing is just not cool.
We do play games at home, and we don't let him win for the sake of it- but when he loses, god, do we know about it- and it takes the shine off a fun session. We perservere!
So... what am I doing wrong, how do I help him?!? Please be gentle, as I had a little sob when I got home (at the bottom of the garden)- as the sheer repetitiveness of this problem is beginning to grate.
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Help me- competitive 4 year old
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winnertakesitall · 11/05/2014 16:41
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