Hi all. I was just after some advice. I feel we are going through a rough patch with our nearly 2.5 yr old. Just getting through basic, daily routines fill me with dread at the moment...I'm talking, getting dressed and shoes on to hopefully leave the house at some point! Everything seems to be a battle and ends up as a production to try and convince him or then ends up with me or dh getting cross so even a lovely day out ends up with us both frazzled. On Sunday we just wanted a walk in the woods, it was a glorious day (after several bigger days out ended in disaster, so we thought, low key, nowhere busy to overwhelm him) well, he wouldn't walk, he wouldn't use his trike, he didn't want a carry from daddy, just mummy (I'm 25 weeks pregnant so trying to avoid carrying the big lug)he just wanted to go back to the car! Which we did in the end as no one was enjoying a minute of it. Everywhere we go I see toddlers that are just carefree and happy in the moment. DS IS never like that, he is just so whiney and doesn't seem to enjoy anything, he has always been hard work, even as a baby we kept thinking "oh he will be a much happier baby when he can crawl/walk/talk" but all these stages have come and gone yet he is still such hard work! He is very shy in new situations and is so clingy to me, he will be a delight for grandparents all day then I will enter the room and he whines, clings and now has started hitting which is a new lovely development. I feel he is a happier little boy when I am not there.
Trying to distract and redirect doesn't seem to work when he is so intent on bad behaviour...eg yesterday I was chatting to my mum, he had lots of toys out and we were still involving him, asking him to make us cups of tea in his kitchen and what have you but he was systematically moving round the room doing naughty things. He started launching church candles from the mantlepiece, then kicking his kitchen, then climbed on the coffee. After several attempts to distract I normally attempt a "time out" which involves removing him from the situation, I stay with him but ignore him, which he hates and he will cry and want cuddles. I will say we can have cuddles when you have either picked up what you have thrown or started to play nicely or whatever the crime. Is that an appropriate way to deal with this behaviour? I feel I have no idea what I am doing and constantly making things worse. You know I thought I was good with kids, I have a class of 31 five year olds that I seem to handle better than the 1 I made myself! Do we just muddle on and hope he improves? I am getting very anxious about the new baby coming, if this is how he is behaving now I dread to think what will happen when the new baby is taking away his mummy!! (last week he had a major tantrum when my friends little boy kept trying to hold my hand!)
Sorry that was so long...first ever post...there's a lot to get out!!
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I'm finding it hard to like my toddler at the moment!
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emzzzz · 08/05/2014 16:22
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